What is happy father’s day? Which date first father’s day was celebrated?

The Date Celebrating Happy Father's Day in June 2017

18th June is Happy Fathers Day or just Father's Day UK is observed worldwide majorly in 40+ countries. This day is celebrated with significance to honor father and fatherhood. However, its observance day varies per country but its frequency is annual. It is related to Children’s day, Siblings Day, Mother’s day, Parent’s Day and Grand Parent’s Day.


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What is father’s day and why is celebrated as Happy Fathers Day

Father's Day is a celebration day honoring fathers and celebrating fatherhood, paternal bonds and significance of fathers in society. As it is a happy event and also a Holiday so it is suffixed and pronounced as Happy Father’s Day. 

In Catholic Europe, it has been in usual observance on March 19 everyone. 

The Father's Day idea was reinforced by the Spanish and Portuguese to Latin America. However, America started observing it on every third Sunday of June and since then it is celebrated in many countries around the world. 

Here is the history pertaining to it,

The Catholic day to praise parenthood goes back to the Middle Ages to tie in with the devour of St Joseph. 

In any case, the festival of parenthood did not achieve the US until around 100 years prior. The UK embraced the day considerably later, around the late 1940s. 

How the thought came to US is debatable. Some recommend that the American Sonora Dodd concocted the possibility of a day for fathers in the wake of hearing a sermon about mother's Day in 1910. She had been raised by her dad – alongside her skin – after her mom passed on in labor. 

Others recommend that the day's causes go back to 1908 when Grace Golden Clayton, from Fairmont, West Virginia, battled for a date for youngsters in a close-by town to recollect their fathers after 360 men kicked the bucket in a mine blast. 

The battle for Mother's Day begun only a few months prior so it is conceivable she drew motivation from this. 

Failed Attempts and Final Establishments of Father’s Day as National Holiday

Jane Addams brought forth the idea of Father's Day Celebration in 1911 in Chicago but was in 1922 when this day was celebrated in Vancouver, Washington. However, it was in 1966, President Lyndon B. Johnson issued the first presidential proclamation honoring fathers, designating the third Sunday in June as Father's Day. 

Finally, in 1972, the day was established and signed into law as a permanent national holiday by President Richard Nixon. 

Wish you a very Happy Father's Day. Share your thoughts in comments.

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Idubbz define 'I have crippling depression' meaning and its symptoms with meme & gifs

It is woosh to watch how Idubbz set definition of crippling depression with creativity at its best. It's vine symptom if we are number one but we have crippling depression. [Must Watch Video]

Yeah, I have crippling depression

Most of the times when I curiously surf the internet, I usually login Facebook. At midnight, when I tap my thumb on my smartphone, a bunch of FB feeds switch my face expressions from a curved lip to straight one to mouth wide open to dumb. And soon, the random feelings of anxiety and depression slowly creep into my mind. And then as soon as I realize it, at speed of a blink of eye, I switch to my favorite Youtube channel show - Idubbz

And then I yell as loud as I can

I have crippling depression, woosh you have crippling depression, Admit it, 'we are number one but we have crippling depression

And the show goes on

I enjoy watching crippling depression meme by Idubbz at least once per night. I love exploring other gifs, meme and funny pictures related to it but I have not yet found as entertaining and tantalizing as Idubbz is.

I have been watching this show for longer but understood crippling definition in a better way when I did my research and asked myself following question

What is Crippling Depression

Crippling Depression is a severe case of clinical depression when you are unable to perform basic Activities of Daily Living. (ADL). Crippling depression symptoms are not seen at once rather it is a long and slow process. In this case, you gradually lose your interest, capability and thinking power when you remain depressed for a long time.

Symptoms of Crippling Depression

In my last crippling depression post, I mentioned about the case of Monica Rogers, She revealed following signs of crippling depression

1. Inability to perform basic personal hygiene
2. Difficulty in thought processing and making decisions
3. Appetite and Weight Change
4. Loss of interest and quick mood swing
5. Feeling of hopelessness, negativity, and failure
6. Stroke of stress and anxiety and depression
7. In worst case - people attempt suicide

How to combat Crippling Depression

While friends can be vital and play an important role in releasing critical depression via Talk Therapy, it is also recommended to get help yourself or help yourself - as we sprymotivators speak aloud - self-help is the best help.

Idubbz is already doing great work to help you release depression with patent 'I have crippling depression' meme and gifs

Here, we are sharing few images, gifs, and meme which can entertain you and leave a curve on your lip.

I have crippling depression Images

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I'd been more motivated if I'd taken these top 3 [Free] motivation tests

Take Free Motivation Tests To Leverage Your Motivation Level 

Self Motivation Test with questionnaire, result, score interpretation, & tips to increase motivation level

Take The Motivation Test and Check If You Can Make The Jump at Present

In this post, I am sharing top 3 FREE sites where I took my self-motivation test. These tests provide scores interpretations and answers with explanations to all questions.

For most of the time, I am very determined and focused on my work. I complete my assignment till late night and yet go for a run daily. I attend meetings whole day and then go for dinner with my wife in the late evening. I have enough energy to do all that I am likely to do, that too on time.

But sometimes, in this busy life, it is normal to lose focus and deviate from our goals. This situation can last for a few days to few weeks and then I recover and get back to my normal routine.

Now, I say, "Yes, I got back my motivation" or "I am more motivated than before and now I CAN DO ANYTHING".

For most of the time, I am very conscious about my work that this should be done. BUT, sometimes, I speak to myself; I am not feeling like doing it. So the demand of situation is to do something on time, but we I not in a NEED of doing it.

For example, if you are an athlete. You have been in a regular practice for last six months. As you are having a national level tournament in next month. But before a month ago, you start losing your passion and dedication. Now you show sign of insincerity and lack of punctuality in your task. Soon you realize it is ironical that you want to improve your daily routine and get back on same track. But it is not coming with ease. You start procrastinating and delaying tasks. Deep down in your heart you know it is a 'do or die' situation for you. Still, you ignore most needed work as you're in an illusion it is needless. This is when you will fail a Need Test. Soon you notice that you have lost passion, energy, and motivation.

I hope this does not happen to me only. It must be happening to you also. At least for once, you must have felt this situation when 'you feel like not doing anything'. Don't you agree? Please let me know in comments.

Now, going ahead...

I face such situations in life but the worst part is I don't know how to cope up with these situations or what I should do. This is because I don't know why, how and to the what extent I am demotivated.

I'd been in the same situation if my friend hadn't helped me overcome my depression. He introduced me 3 sites he had researched himself to take self-motivation and Need test. These sites helped me a lot understanding my current motivational level. It also revealed motivational factors that trigger action and reaction in my thoughts and action. Ultimately, it is our action and result that confirms, if we are really motivated or just pretending to be motivated.


Well, now straightaway, I am sharing these sites with you. I am also sharing my personal experience and observations on these motivational resources. I am sure my review on these sites will give you a better guidance.


Here, we land on these sites, one by one.

1. Self-Motivation Quiz - Goal Setting Tools from MindTools.com

It says 

Take this interactive quiz to help you find out how self-motivated you are.

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Mindtools is my # 1 choice of for motivation test. It contains 12 motivation questionnaire against which we have to pick our best of five options. The best feature about this tool is instant score interpretation as it gives the sum of total score as soon as you complete the test along with Score Interpretation just below it. 

There are three slabs of score containing a range of scores. The higher we score, the better we are at our motivation level.  It is quite simple and straightforward and hence it makes this tool very effective and fast in translating one’s attitude into motivational behavior. As crispier, so merrier this tool is. 

According to mindtools, four factors are necessary to build the strongest levels of self-motivation:

1. Self-confidence and self-efficacy.
2. Positive thinking and positive thinking about the future.
3. Focus and strong goals.
4. A motivating environment.

2. What motivates you - Take the Motivation Test – Learn Yourself

It says 

Take our test to learn how you're motivated and then follow our 41 tips to reboot your levels of motivation.

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Seemypersonality.com is my # 2 choice to take a free 5 minutes long motivation test. It contains sixty objective questions. The test is very simple, fast and effective. It claims to increase your productivity if you follow its 41 hacks to get seriously motivated.

Here are 41 hacks that you can help you switch from older habits to newer ones which are more effective in increasing motivation.

1. Get Real

2. Become a Master 

3. Sprit, Rest, Sprint

4. Completely Immerse Yourself – Flow

5. Relax when Motivation Subsides

6. Financial Rewards Don’t Work!

7. Be an Optimist

8. Be Realistic Too

9. Specific Goals beat ‘Do Your Best’

10. Spend Your Willpower Wisely

11. Is Fear Killing Motivation?

12. Create a To Don’t List

13. Sign Multiple Motivation

14. Have a Backup Plan

15. Use the Energy Hack

16. Create a Rivalry

17. Scrap Motivation and Use Habits

18. Celebrate New Year’s Everyday

19. Understand Your Values and Personality 

20. Supercharge your Why’s

21. Positive Self Talk  Works- But Choose Carefully 

22. Make it Easy

23. Take Control – Be your Own Boss

24. Get the Motivation App 

25. Eliminate Doubt 

26. Don’t Share Your Goal!

27. Be Impartial and Leave Ego Behind 

28. Let Failure Make you Stronger 

29. Get Better Progressively and Avoid Burnout 

30. Get Real

31. Deadlines Work 

32. Live the Alternative

33. The Right Kind of Criticism Helps

34. Sleep Efficiently

35. Get enough Vitamin D

36. Address Depression if it exists 

37. Don’t eat too much or too little 

38. Exercise Aerobically 

39. Practice Mindfulness Mediation

40. Evaluate your Friendship 

41. Music Motivates 

3. Motivation & Needs Test | Psychology Today

It says

Take the Motivation & Needs Test for a good look at your motivation and hierarchy of needs; get motivation.

An image from the Motivation Test at PsychologyToday.com 

Motivation and Need Test falls # 3 on my list. It provides evaluation report with graph and paid detailed interpretation. The test is 30 minutes long with 194 tiny questions. The test is longest of all 3 tools I mentioned here. I noticed 194 questions started creating a confusion and boredom in my mind by the time I reached at the end of questions. 

However, this process of a test is a result of study and deep research in the field of psychology and motivation. Psychologytoday.com claims to provide the best results for self-motivation test and hence it is paid. It is worth taking this test if you really want to taste a real essence of psychological test. 

Take action right away. It is important to address our weakness and overcome it as soon as possible. Keep your spark alive. Keep rolling on. Take the test and feel free to share your high thoughts with me in comments below.

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Is it too late to make a U-turn and escape from suicidal thoughts, depression and anxiety?

Suicidal thoughts evolved of depression and anxiety

Suicidal thoughts evolved of depression and anxieties are more prevalent these days than any time in history. We are blindly followed by our thoughts that end up with anxiety and depression.  These thoughts are akin to slope and paths from the treacherous song by Taylor Swift. Here it says, ‘This slope is treacherous, this path is reckless.’ It is interesting to note how it defines love and adversities of a heart. The same applies for our mind also esp. our thoughts – the building blocks of our mind. A mind is the same kind what its constituents are made of. Thus, a mind with suicidal thoughts is a suicidal mind.

How to overcome depression and anxiety

The increase in the number of death owing to suicide caused due to anxiety and depression is increasing like a fire in a jungle. Since a couple of years, it’s been highest ever. People are ending their own life as if they have changed into a Zombie. A Zombie is one that is made when killed by a person infected by the bite of another zombie, which was made from the bite of yet another infected person and so on.

All you need to know about crippling depression

Suicidal thoughts are contagious 

Same is the case with suicidal thoughts. A suicidal thought is Zombie here. A suicidal thought is contagious and when another thought comes in its influence it also gets infected and it continues till all connected thoughts and mind is suicidal. But a question stand tall still is ‘Is it really very hard to make a U-turn and change the direction that leads to suicidal thoughts?”

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Normal thoughts infected by negative thoughts become suicidal and dilute other thoughts further.

In the movie, Train to Busan, we see how people change their direction as quickly as they see any Zombie. Thus, we learn that moving into a positive direction is the key to escape a suicide. Only positive attitude and thoughts can help anyone gets rid of negative thoughts and save the ones from a suicide.

But for some, it becomes too late to make a U-turn and escape from suicidal thoughts because they are already bitten by a Zombie and there is 100% possible danger for them to get infected sooner or later. So, they just leave their companions half way and make room for them to escape from themselves else they might harm them.

In most of the suicidal cases, a victim is confused and asks several questions herself and in answers, victim imagines and builds stories with consequences having negative endings and shallow base. At the end, only one question is left in her mind. ‘What her parents, friends or dear one will think of her?’ I’m such a failure as I can’t make my parents happy, I’m a foolish person, my husband cheated on me. Now, who should I live for? He was my life but no more he loves me. Better, I die and so on...

Alas! Most of the time in between the pity thoughts and suicidal action there comes no one to whisper in her ear, “Hey it is just a matter of time. Time changes and heals everything as it passes, It gives a second chance to everyone. It will give a second chance to you. Believe in life. Live, Don’t Die”.

Wish someone could yell loud enough to reach the voice in her ears.

Life gives a second chance to everyone. Just hold on! Live for some more time, sooner or later, you will bounce back and become happy.

But most of the time when they commit suicide there is no one around to speak the healing truth. It is more of care, a precautious initiative by dear one to escape a suicide.

What about our very own negative thoughts that constantly kill our positivity and hope for life?

There is an increase in depression across the world in people of almost of all age group but more prevalent in teenagers and as young as 20-35 years old people.

Depression in itself is a very contemporary topic and its consequences are detrimental. Yet it is shocking we are doing least to combat it.

A poor, lazy lifestyle and absence of a direction or motive in life often give birth to depression. The more you age without expected results the more you tend to get depressed. This is a reason for the increase in suicides in students and it is increasing day by day.

Good Parenting and Counseling can help reduce anxiety depression and suicidal thoughts

At teenage, they are not given right guidance and direction is not set. At a sudden when they are asked to do wonder, for which they think they are incapable of, or when they fail to do so, they tend to commit suicide.

Meditation and a genuine prayer help fight anxiety and suicidal thoughts 

Though it is due to extreme pressure, expectation and social criticism but somewhere a poor parenting, lack of raising a child mentally strong, firm and adaptable to any culture and consequences. All this could be attained with proper guidance, caring, and meditation.

Meditation, Prayers and Vedic rituals have spiritual importance and measures to combat negative thoughts and depression. One cannot deny it. The need of the hour is to identify the spiritual, psychological, physical and social need of a child and build an all round strong personality which can bear the stroke, pressure, and threat of modern society. This is only possible when parents themselves start practicing and implementing these ideas.

For sure, their world can change. It is time to promise, “I am the world’s first person. So change starts from me. I can change. I will change and then I will make a change.” It’s your turn now. Go make a change.

Share your thoughts on it in comments.

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How To Run A Business While Traveling. Tips For Entrepreneurs on the Go

For most entrepreneurs, traveling is part and parcel of running a business. No matter how large or small the operations are, there will always be local and international trips and meetings to go to. However, there are businesses which require their owners or managers to stay extended periods away from home. In some cases, they need to be away for six months at a time. Here is where it becomes challenging to run a business while one is constantly on the go.

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Staying at a foreign place for several weeks or months can take a toll on any person, regardless of how busy his schedule may be. The distance, time difference, and physical separation from loved ones and family can cause even the most determined business person to be homesick and want to come home. There’s also a concern over health issues, food, and language difference. All of these, however, can be dealt with given the right planning and scheduling. Chats and phone calls can help bridge the communication gap during the months that one is away. True, it’s not the same as physically being there, but arrangements can be made to have family come over for a quick visit at certain times.

Keeping a detailed schedule also makes it easier to run a business while traveling. Having all of your meetings and conferences scheduled as tightly as you can in one day leaves you with some free time to catch up with friends and family, explore the place, dine out and most importantly -exercise!

Time Management Tools To Help Get You More Time

If you’re keen on living the nomadic life for the sake of entrepreneurship, this infographic is for you. We’re sharing the best tips and tricks to make living out of a suitcase more bearable and pleasant.

How do you manage your business on the go? Please share your thoughts in the comment box. 

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51 Most Famous Good Night Quotes Messages From Him For Her

Send these good night quotes to her before you go to bed. You can wish your loved one good night wishes by choosing the best quote from the collection of these famous Good Night Quotes. You can send your favorite one via SMS, WhatsApp message, drop in FB Messenger or Skype Chat Box. It's up to you what medium you choose to send your delightful wishes to her.

Enjoy and Share the love with your Love.

1. The night is far too long, for you to be away. I am desperately waiting, for it to turn into day.  My heart will rot away if things keep going on like this. All I want to do is give you a kiss…

2. Thinking about you is the tipping point where my nightmares end and sweet dreams begin…

3. You’ll be the last thing I think of before I fall asleep and the first thing I think of when I wake up.

4. And tonight, I’ll fall asleep with you in my heart. 

5. I know you are the one because when we are apart I feel incomplete. I never want to be without you. Good Night

6. You are the reason why I have sleepless nights. You are the person why I tend to hold my pillow tight and you are the reason I can’t sleep without saying GOOD NIGHT.

7. The message has the following attachments – the sweetest kiss and coziest hug, the cutest cuddle and warmest snuggle. Good Night

8. The dark skies of night are a canvas on which I paint my dreams and imagine us together, now and forever. 

9. Stares light stars bright, you are the only star I see tonight, I wish I might be there guarding your dreams tonight. 

10. Love is the simpler feelings, I dream every night about you I want to complete your heart. 

11. Baby, I miss you please close your eyes and come meet me in our dreams tonight. 

12. I promise you to be the warrior who fights all your nightmares and the messenger who brings all your sweet dreams. 

13. The night may be dark, the moon may not come and stars may hide, but don’t worry I’m here to brighten up your night. Good Night 

14. The thoughts of how much I love you are keeping me awake longer and longer each night. 

15. Good Night my love, Good Night my everything. 

16. I may be tired, I may be sleepy. But I will never be able to fall asleep until I message my sweetie. 

17. I’m in my bed, you’re in your bed. One of us is in the wrong place.

18. Your love’s gathered storm I chased across the sky A moment in your arms became the reason why you alone are my light I would give anything to feel you in my arms tonight. 

19. If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way. Say Good Night to me in a loving mood. 

20. No matter how far you are, you will always be in my thoughts. Each day that we are together is the best day of my life. 

21. Every night I fall asleep with a smile on my face because I know that I’m going to wake up and meet the person who puts it there…

22. I am… Yearning to hold you close, craving for your hugs, lusting for your kisses, wishing for your naughty tugs, fatally attracted to you, longing for your touch, desperate for your love, missing you too much, Good Night my Love

23. The night is not forever, but our love is…

24. Last night I hugged my pillow and dreamt of you. I hugged my pillow and dreamt of you. I wish that someday I’d dream about my pillow and I’d be hugging you. 

25. I started counting one star in the sky for each reason I love you… then I ran out of stars and I realized the reasons are infinite.

26. The night breeze is blowing through my hair and the soft touch reminds me of your kisses. I wish I wish I didn’t have to miss you this much. 

27. Sleep, my love, dream Happy Dreams, you are the only one who has ever touched my heart, It will forever be yours. 

28. Sun is upset and the moon is happy, because Sun is missing you, and Moon gonna be with you, for rest of the night. Have a wonderful night. 

29. Whenever I think about my love for you, I see all my dream coming true. Good Night

30. I wish Moon always be full and bright. Whenever you go to switch off the light, remember, that I am missing you. Good Night 

31. Thousands of stars in the sky shine bright, but you are the only shining star in my sight. 

32. If I’d to choose between loving you and breathing, I would use my last breath to say I love you. 

33. I wish I was your blanket; I wish I was your bed, I wish I was your pillow underneath your head, I want to be around you, I want to hold you tight, and be the lucky person who kisses you. Good Night

34. The moon is angry at me and jealous of you because I said that no one can light my nights like you. 

35. It doesn’t matter where you come from but what matters most is to understand where you going. Goodnight, and catch the sweet dreams. 

36. No matter how hard you try, your dreams can never be sweet than mine… Because I dream about you. 

37. We come with nothing and go with nothing. But one great thing we achieve is a little remembrance in someone’s mind and small place in someone’s heart. Good Night 

38. My girl, I’m sending you lots of hugs, A blow of kisses, And, cuddles and more, Just to show that I love you so much, Just to show I am missing your touch, I love you, Wish you a lovely night. 

39. Do not let anyone ever dull your sparkle. 

40. By the moon as I sit to see your glory. The white roses I see, creates a new story.  Seasons are many, their reasons few, what remains is that I will always love you.  

41. My day has been hectic, it’s been non-stop and I never got to see you. It was hard but thought of falling asleep without saying goodnight to you was unbearable. Goodnight, sleep tight, I can’t wait until the next time I see you. 

42. I do a lot of thinking before I go to sleep. I play scenes in my head. I practice the things I want to say. I have endless “What Ifs” I make a plan for the next day. I think of all the people I miss. I think of all the ones I hate. I ask myself a lot of questions.

43. The day has ended, the busy hours are over. It’s time to sleep. Your dreams are waiting, the night awaits in silence… Go ahead and sleep well… Good Night

44. Baby Good Night. Don’t lose hope. You never know! What tomorrow will bring. Good Night Sweet Dreams

45. I wish that God would hold you tight, I hope that angels would keep you in sight, Now just to make sure you felt all right, I gonna blow you a sweet goodnight. 

46. A day is going to end again. It is nice to have a friend like you making my everyday seems so great. Good Night and sweet dreams. 

47. Always hope but never expect. Sweet Dream, Sleep Tight, Good Night.

48. Good Night, Another day is over. It’s nice to know that there’s someone Who makes my day fulfilled and fun. Thank you for the inspiration. I’m sending my warm hugs and kisses as I wish my sweetest goodnight for you. 

49. Good night sleep tight I will be dreaming of you with all my might.

50. I may be tired, I may be sleepy. But I will never be able to fall asleep until I message you, my sweetie. 

51. I was looking out the windows thinking about the person core most and the one who came to my mind was you. So good night and sweet dreams my dear. 

Which one is your favorite quote? Share in comments. 

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Life In Color: The time of our colorful lives.

Recently, I had a dream, that I was living in a monochromatic world, where everything and everyone was shades of red, I drank red water, ate red food and met red people with hair, eyes, and skin in red color. Thanks to red blood sucking, a small monster named mosquito that my dream was distracted and I was back to the multi-chromatic world. 

I am glad that it was just a dream as no one would like to live in a one-colored world, where one would go emotionless hence devoid of a meaningful life. A color is tied to emotions as well as being a physical reality, without colors life would be dull, dry like a wasteland, lacking affection and zeal. We are emotionally affected by the multi-chromatic physical world and also by the visualized colors of our inner world. Color intention and visualization, as well as seeing color with our physical eyes transmit distinct physiological, mental, and energetic information throughout our system. 

Life In Color: Happy Holi

Till I knew the importance of colors, I used to think of colors, as a mean to distinguish things but it is the least one can expect from colors. A commendable use of color, which we could use, is to alter and drive our emotions towards new thoughts, which would ultimately lead to the attainment of higher goals in our life. There would have been no emotions if there were no colors. A quote by Roger Lewis “Take away the motion of light or color, and we would have no awareness at all of the appearance of matter” certainly fortifies this.

Now, this is the time of our colorful lives, where we are different from others of colors, in a festive season of colors, just colors. This time our language is color, which is silent but universal language. Without words and across differing cultures, color can be used for communication among people. Color holds information and transmits messages. Intuitively and instinctively, our positive thoughts pertaining to love, empathy, care, joy, revolutionary idea of bringing the change, brightness and high spirits among people around us can be easily depicted and transferred through a different aura of colors.

With this hope that you will enjoy this HOLI in all twelve colors, in a rainbow style to share happiness and vitality among all around us and make our life more colorful and cheerful, wish you a very Happy Holi.

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Are you too addicted to kill Procrastination? Yes I am

Procrastination is a state of mind, a mental disorder. Yes, I will say a mental disorder because it starts inside your mind and ends in your mind. Strange!

Procrastination is an addiction that I have been practicing for years. Want in numbers? 5 years. Yes, it is for 5+ years that I delayed and postponed the things which I should have done earlier. And the worst guess what…. Still, I’m not done yet!

These are some running habits which show the sign of procrastination

There were days when I was fit and proactive, but now I am struggling to get the things back on the track.

But why Am I not doing the things which are most required….. This is coz

I’m not able to find which task is of high importance?

I’m not able to find which task is on top priority?

I’m not motivated, I will fail as I am not prepared yet, I’m not competent enough to start now, so I will start my task when everything is on track as I want. So better I will try later.

And worst, - I’m doing nothing to figure out both of them, I'm poor in time management.

But why I’m not doing, why I am not figuring out? Why I am not putting any efforts to find the ins and outs of the matter?

And slowly I figure out after a well-done self-introspection that I am actually addicted to procrastination.

Yes, Addicted to procrastination.

My Gosh, I am suffering from two mental disorders simultaneously… Addiction and procrastination

What is Addiction?  

Addiction is some kind of activity, habit or state of action in which you are excessively involved and keep on performing or indulge into it permanently and it may or may not be beneficial for you.
It is said, ‘anything bad or good done more than a limit always has a bad consequence.' And this gives birth to addiction. You stick to a goal, aim, habit or anything and do it in excess. And then it harms you and you know it, but still, you don’t let it go away. Then it becomes your addiction. Thus, the addiction is fact or condition of being addicted to a particular substance or activity.

How does addiction work?

When you are addicted your body adapts to the substance being used and gradually requires increased amounts to reproduce the effects originally produced by smaller doses. This is the case when you are addicted to any physical substance like a drug, caffeine, etc., But it works similarly when you are addicted to abstract or intangible things such as any habit or action, and in my case, this habit is nonetheless procrastination

Addiction works on pleasure principle. It invloves various chemical reactions inside the brain region which is particularly called brain's reward center. The below picture illustrates the process.

Brain's Reward Center | Image Source 

So, what the hell is procrastination!

The action of delaying or postponing something. Yup, it is, I delay and sometimes postpone my tasks to final day just to find that I just have 5 hours to submit my work though I had 1 month or more to complete the task. This might be the worst case of procrastination for me. I’m still exploring the extreme case of procrastination. But I think it has already happened to me. Actually, I have delayed this article for more than 1 year and so. This might be the extreme procrastination for me. Anyway, what is the extreme procrastination for you?

Here are few other examples of worst procrastination random people practice frequently; you can read a few more similar stories here.

I get an examination proposition due at 10 AM (6 hours) as you began at 4 AM, yet most noticeably bad you understand are you got this task seven days prior.

Writing papers in the morning before school, going home to play computer games as opposed to considering et cetera. I don't have much shower as regularly as I ought to...

I am perusing this string while I ought to ponder for my bio exam that is coming in 3 hours

Tonight I needed to do a taping task for uni, and our gathering continued to get together 10 hours after the fact than arranged, then chose straight away to go get sustenance.

Unless somebody misses their uncle's burial service because of lingering, I thusly formally pronounce composing papers at 2 a.m. NOT hesitating.

Mostly, I hesitate on doing grown-up things, such as purchasing sustenance for myself or vacuuming. I'm the most exceedingly bad at placing gas in my auto. I'll hold up until I must choose between limited options in how far I can go to get gas, which is an issue since I work a twenty-minute road head out from where I live. I haven't had any terrible outcomes yet, yet it's as yet something that I don't really need to procrastinate on for any reason and still do.

Okay, now I know a lot about the procrastination but

How the hell I got procrastinated or why do people procrastinate?

Everyone has its own reason to procrastinate. Random people have random thoughts. What different thoughts trigger procrastination differs from one person to another. But there must be some mental phenomena going inside the brain that must be similar to everyone!

Here are few triggering thoughts as reasons which are seen almost in all procrastinators

1. “I don’t feel like doing it.” – lack of motivation
2. “But, I don’t know how” – skill deficits
3. “But, what If I can’t cut it?” – fear of failure
4. “How can I top this?” - fear of success can be the other side of fear of failure.
5. “This stuff is just plain boring.” – lack of interest
6. “You can’t make it.” - rebellion and resistance

So I am sure you must be affected with one of the six reasons to postpone your next assignment.
But, Why Am I addicted to this thought? Is there any tool to measure it and to what scale I am procrastinated?

Procrastination is a typical issue, but defining and measuring it is debatable. This paper summarizes results from students and employees (N = 2893) in Finland, Germany, Italy, Norway, Poland, and Sweden using the Pure Procrastination Scale (PPS) and the Irrational Procrastination Scale (IPS; Steel, 2010)

Here are best findings which show occurrence of procrastination in us.

• The occurrence of procrastination depends on personal and situational factors. 
• On the one hand, procrastination relates to personality traits such as conscientiousness and impulsiveness (Steel, 2007). 
• It also occurs more often in the context of mastery-goal orientation (Howell and Watson, 2007), and less in self-determined activities (Senécal et al., 2003). 
• On the other hand, certain task characteristics and contextual factors bear a greater potential for procrastination than others, for example, high task complexity (Ackerman and Gross, 2005), and the absence of clear deadlines (Schraw et al., 2007). 
• Also, procrastination often entails manifest negative consequences concerning objective well-being, for example, health-related or academic achievement-related consequences (Tice and Baumeister, 1997) and subjective well-being (Deniz, 2006; Klingsieck, 2013b). 
• Research indicates that approximately one-fifth of the adult population regard themselves as having great difficulties initiating or completing tasks and commitments (Harriott and Ferrari, 1996) while at least half of the student population perceive procrastination as a recurrent and severe problem in their everyday life (Day et al., 2000). 
• These findings show procrastination is linked to personal, situational and psychological factors. So it is again related to thoughts, changing mindset, attitude and thoughts can surely help combating procrastination.

Next, I’m going to share ways to combat procrastination. 

Procrastination thoughts are not less dangerous than suicidal thoughts. Eradicating these thoughts is the most penetrating approach to combat procrastination.

I’m doing following things against these thoughts to fight procrastination. Remember action is more important than mere thoughts. Self-help is the best help.

As said, Action speaks louder than words, here we act

1. “I don’t feel like doing it.” – But I will do it, so just do it
2. “But, I don’t know how” – I will find my way once I start up, so just do it 
3. “But, what If I can’t cut it?” – Then I’ll try again, but first I need to begin it, so just do it
4. “How can I top this?” – It doesn’t matter, if I fail I will learn, then I will start over, so just do it
5. “This stuff is just plain boring.” – So is the breathing but I’m living so I will put my hands on it, so just do it.
6. “You can’t make it.” – Surely, I will make it, who the hell are you to predict my future, I can breathe so I can make it, so just do it.

These anti-thoughts against your procrastination thoughts will come quite handy if you strike as soon as these thoughts appear in your mind. Remember, You should be very quick and strike instantly after the first flash of negative thoughts. If you delay, there are high chances negative thoughts will produce a chain reaction and as a result, different sets of negative thoughts will be created in no time.

These thoughts are smart enough to collectively make up a story that has an unhappy ending or negative consequences. As soon as I say to myself, “But what If I can’t cut it?” I must strike with a positive set of thoughts i.e. “Then I’ll try again, but first I need to begin it, so just do it, ” but if I am slow to act, my mind be attacked by a different set of thoughts which can make up a story. This can be “If I will fail, people will laugh at me. They will say I am a failure, I can’t do anything in my life. My partner will break up with me. Parents will torture me and story goes on until we find bad ending.

It is very important to be quick and rinse negative thoughts with a positive mindset. 

I’m not good in attacking on procrastination. It was not possible for more than a year. But once, I admitted that I’m procrastinating, I started searching for ways to combat it as it has done much harm to me. But guess what, I was still procrastinating and this time I was procrastinating in finding ways how to kill procrastination.

Now I have found it is impossible to beat procrastination until you act. Action against the ill-thoughts of delaying or postponing is the key to kill procrastination. And if you want to eradicate it, just do the things as soon as you get them.

Mathematically,

Positive Thoughts + Quick Action = Beat/Kill Procrastination 

Negative Thoughts + Delay in Action = Birth/Growth of Procrastination 

Are you still reading this article, now don’t think over, just do it. Yeah, you can do it.

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